I want people to be able to express themselves and their gender in any way they want as well. I feel like I'm basically a binary woman in a lot of respects, and if I could pass I probably would. Though at the same time, I don't plan to ever stop talking about trans stuff on social media. But being in a position where I do pass feels like it would give me some privilege to be publicly trans without as much flak.

As is often the case, I feel a sort of responsibility that I would never put onto other people. I would love to be part of deconstructing binary gender expectations that hurt people, including me because I think that's a lot of what kept me from figuring out that I wasn't male for so long. Wanting to just be a woman and not really be noticed in public in-person interactions unless I choose to be runs counter to that in some ways. But it's what I want, and I think that's mostly because of fear, and I feel a little shame in not being brave enough to get past that fear and help make things a little better for people in the future.