Meme commentary:
More meme commentary:
Someone on my list posted one that reads "If you want a nice guy, stop treating the nice guys like shit." The text is superimposed over a black-and-white image of a man holding a car door open for a woman who is either getting in or out. It seems to be from the early '50s maybe?
I'd like to know what this text means to you. That is, what do you think it's trying to express? I'm not sure that i understand it. I don't believe that "nice guys" are treated poorly by women in general in common social situations. I suspect, but am not sure, that, rather than making a general statement about how women treat nice guys in general, this is focusing on romance and/or sex. Perhaps it's making a statement on behalf of men who consider themselves "nice guys" who feel like they are not being valued, as romantic or sexual prospects, as highly as they should be?
It seems overly simplified to me. Really, don't the vast majority of males identify as "nice guys"? That being the case, any group of unpartnered heterosexual men who talk among themselves on the subject of women are likely to all agree that they are undervalued "nice guys" because they are not in a relationship. It's kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Much like the "friend zone" term that I feel some disquiet over, it seems like a displacement of blame and non-acceptance of responsibility. I feel like the thought process is something like "I'm a nice guy. Therefore, there is nothing really wrong with me in terms of viability as a sexual or romantic partner. I am not in a relationship. Therefore, there is something wrong with women because they are not in a relationship with me." It seems kind of sexist. I think a more valuable line of thought would be to examine what kind of relationship you want to be in and analyze what's going on on your own part that has kept you from being able to find that kind of relationship.
Someone on my list posted one that reads "If you want a nice guy, stop treating the nice guys like shit." The text is superimposed over a black-and-white image of a man holding a car door open for a woman who is either getting in or out. It seems to be from the early '50s maybe?
I'd like to know what this text means to you. That is, what do you think it's trying to express? I'm not sure that i understand it. I don't believe that "nice guys" are treated poorly by women in general in common social situations. I suspect, but am not sure, that, rather than making a general statement about how women treat nice guys in general, this is focusing on romance and/or sex. Perhaps it's making a statement on behalf of men who consider themselves "nice guys" who feel like they are not being valued, as romantic or sexual prospects, as highly as they should be?
It seems overly simplified to me. Really, don't the vast majority of males identify as "nice guys"? That being the case, any group of unpartnered heterosexual men who talk among themselves on the subject of women are likely to all agree that they are undervalued "nice guys" because they are not in a relationship. It's kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Much like the "friend zone" term that I feel some disquiet over, it seems like a displacement of blame and non-acceptance of responsibility. I feel like the thought process is something like "I'm a nice guy. Therefore, there is nothing really wrong with me in terms of viability as a sexual or romantic partner. I am not in a relationship. Therefore, there is something wrong with women because they are not in a relationship with me." It seems kind of sexist. I think a more valuable line of thought would be to examine what kind of relationship you want to be in and analyze what's going on on your own part that has kept you from being able to find that kind of relationship.
