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Since Lisa is borrowing my car for the weekend, I picked her up at the Waukegan Metra station last night. It was so nice to catch up on conversations and cuddles with her. Apparently when she was moving around in the morning, I woke up a few times and reached out to pet her hair but was not awake enough to have full motor control yet. *whack...whack...* *giggles*
I listened to an amazing show on WBEZ from 10 to 11. I managed to find a link to it.
It was a wonderful set of stories about relationships beginning and ending. The pieces that most moved me was about a couple who, after a significant span together full of wonder, decided that they needed to end their relationship. In doing so, they organized a solemn "unwedding" ceremony.
It was partly a recognition of the fact that a breakup involves a wider social circle in deep and important ways, just as a wedding does. The ceremony included a lot of strikingly fitting ritual that I don't feel I can do justice to in a write-up here. The ex-couple read, for instance, lists of things that each of them would miss about each other, and guests were given printed out copies of texts the couple had send each other. Those texts were gathered together and burned, but not before the guests had taken turns whispering them back to the original recipients, bringing these memories to the fore and then letting them go. Anyway, I'll recommend listening to the story, if you have any interest. It was really moving. It stands as a rejection to way that we celebrate and publicly recognize beginnings, but we shame and ignore endings, even though they loom at least as large in people's lives and would benefit from being acknowledged and worked through.
It may be because I've been kind of emotional lately, but it made me think, too, about how much I care about Danae and Lisa; how important they are in my life. It made me think about relationships that have ended, too, and where they fit into who I now am. It made me think about moving after graduation and how much things will change. There's more of a chance that I'll be living near Danae, as she'll be moving as well at some point, once she finishes school and is looking for work in academia. But the odds are that I will end up being far away from one or both of the people I dearly love in a romantic sense, as well as from my family and friends. It makes me more than a little sad sometimes, but it's a good thing to think about, once in a while.
This also makes me think of the divorce party I really wanted to have, but was never able to put together. I kind of wanted an event to semi-formally mark the transition in my life.
I listened to an amazing show on WBEZ from 10 to 11. I managed to find a link to it.
It was a wonderful set of stories about relationships beginning and ending. The pieces that most moved me was about a couple who, after a significant span together full of wonder, decided that they needed to end their relationship. In doing so, they organized a solemn "unwedding" ceremony.
It was partly a recognition of the fact that a breakup involves a wider social circle in deep and important ways, just as a wedding does. The ceremony included a lot of strikingly fitting ritual that I don't feel I can do justice to in a write-up here. The ex-couple read, for instance, lists of things that each of them would miss about each other, and guests were given printed out copies of texts the couple had send each other. Those texts were gathered together and burned, but not before the guests had taken turns whispering them back to the original recipients, bringing these memories to the fore and then letting them go. Anyway, I'll recommend listening to the story, if you have any interest. It was really moving. It stands as a rejection to way that we celebrate and publicly recognize beginnings, but we shame and ignore endings, even though they loom at least as large in people's lives and would benefit from being acknowledged and worked through.
It may be because I've been kind of emotional lately, but it made me think, too, about how much I care about Danae and Lisa; how important they are in my life. It made me think about relationships that have ended, too, and where they fit into who I now am. It made me think about moving after graduation and how much things will change. There's more of a chance that I'll be living near Danae, as she'll be moving as well at some point, once she finishes school and is looking for work in academia. But the odds are that I will end up being far away from one or both of the people I dearly love in a romantic sense, as well as from my family and friends. It makes me more than a little sad sometimes, but it's a good thing to think about, once in a while.
This also makes me think of the divorce party I really wanted to have, but was never able to put together. I kind of wanted an event to semi-formally mark the transition in my life.