r/T4T Personal, Discord
I did find a transfem Discord server to join, and though I'm feeling a little overwhelmed by all the people there, I'm hoping I can connect with folks.
I also spent a little time looking at the T4T subreddit and found a wider range of ages. I just posted a personal there: here's what I wrote
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43 TF4T - Regina, SK: poly, geeky, kinky transgirl looking for cuddles, FWBs, or partners
Hi! I'm a librarian/archivist who's been on HRT for about 1.5 years and out for most of that time.
I spent most of my life terrified of other people and not really knowing how to relate to them as a boy. Turns out that's 'cause I'm not a boy! 😸 I've been around fan/alt culture my whole life - my parents met at a D&D game - and have wanted for a very long time to be involved in the dating and kink scenes that many of the people I knew were, but I couldn't seem to figure out how to do it. I used to think it was because of neurodivergence (I'm a self-diagnosed autistic person), but turns out there was a lot more.
Now that I've realized I'm a girl I think I'm going to be much better at it, and honestly I'd like to make up for lost time.
I have two roadblocks right now. First, I'm kind of out of the way up here in Regina. Second, my nesting partner has chronic health problems and is extra vulnerable to Covid complications, so I need to be much more careful about Covid exposure. That is for sure something that can be worked around for in-person meet ups, but it makes it hard to be part of the social scene. This need to keep somewhat isolated while simultaneously wanting, for the first time in my life, to go out and meet people and date as who I really am, sucks. It sucks a lot.
But I'm hoping I can find ways to meet people that work for me. Maybe this is one of those ways?
Some quick info about me: I'm a geek who used to work in IT, and I love sci-fi/fantasy stuff. I'm a big board gamer and have a bunch of games I far too rarely get to use. I used to be more of a PC gamer than I am now and one of the silly things I'm proud of is getting every achievement in Factorio, which maybe tells you the kinds of things I like to play. Since transitioning, I've realized that I'm a lesbian (I'd thought I was bi for a long time) and have gotten into yuri manga and anime in a kind of embarassing squeeing teenage fangirl sort of way. 😻 I'm into bicycling (I was a year round bike commuter for years and want to ride my first brevet next year), photographing cool old buildings, photographing roadside tourist kitsch (ROADTRIPS!), cuddles (I miss cuddle parties), and bunches of other stuff. I love learning about new things, too: If you're excited about it, I love being the recipient of info dumps!
I'm down for cuddles and chatting with anybody, and honestly one of the things I want *most* in my life right now is people to get comfy on a couch or bed with and watch yuri. For playtime and kink, though, I'm almost exclusively interested in fem and non-binary folks. I could go on forever, and usually I write too much, so I'll stop there. If I sound interesting, please feel free to send me a message. I still get a bit nervous talking to new people, but I'd love to hear from you.
I also spent a little time looking at the T4T subreddit and found a wider range of ages. I just posted a personal there: here's what I wrote
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43 TF4T - Regina, SK: poly, geeky, kinky transgirl looking for cuddles, FWBs, or partners
Hi! I'm a librarian/archivist who's been on HRT for about 1.5 years and out for most of that time.
I spent most of my life terrified of other people and not really knowing how to relate to them as a boy. Turns out that's 'cause I'm not a boy! 😸 I've been around fan/alt culture my whole life - my parents met at a D&D game - and have wanted for a very long time to be involved in the dating and kink scenes that many of the people I knew were, but I couldn't seem to figure out how to do it. I used to think it was because of neurodivergence (I'm a self-diagnosed autistic person), but turns out there was a lot more.
Now that I've realized I'm a girl I think I'm going to be much better at it, and honestly I'd like to make up for lost time.
I have two roadblocks right now. First, I'm kind of out of the way up here in Regina. Second, my nesting partner has chronic health problems and is extra vulnerable to Covid complications, so I need to be much more careful about Covid exposure. That is for sure something that can be worked around for in-person meet ups, but it makes it hard to be part of the social scene. This need to keep somewhat isolated while simultaneously wanting, for the first time in my life, to go out and meet people and date as who I really am, sucks. It sucks a lot.
But I'm hoping I can find ways to meet people that work for me. Maybe this is one of those ways?
Some quick info about me: I'm a geek who used to work in IT, and I love sci-fi/fantasy stuff. I'm a big board gamer and have a bunch of games I far too rarely get to use. I used to be more of a PC gamer than I am now and one of the silly things I'm proud of is getting every achievement in Factorio, which maybe tells you the kinds of things I like to play. Since transitioning, I've realized that I'm a lesbian (I'd thought I was bi for a long time) and have gotten into yuri manga and anime in a kind of embarassing squeeing teenage fangirl sort of way. 😻 I'm into bicycling (I was a year round bike commuter for years and want to ride my first brevet next year), photographing cool old buildings, photographing roadside tourist kitsch (ROADTRIPS!), cuddles (I miss cuddle parties), and bunches of other stuff. I love learning about new things, too: If you're excited about it, I love being the recipient of info dumps!
I'm down for cuddles and chatting with anybody, and honestly one of the things I want *most* in my life right now is people to get comfy on a couch or bed with and watch yuri. For playtime and kink, though, I'm almost exclusively interested in fem and non-binary folks. I could go on forever, and usually I write too much, so I'll stop there. If I sound interesting, please feel free to send me a message. I still get a bit nervous talking to new people, but I'd love to hear from you.