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Aug. 21st, 2005 11:33 amI wrote a little something in response to something that a friend said in her journal. I realized after writing it that it just seemed like it deserved to be here too. I don't think I've really written about it here before.
It's interesting to read about your experiences with male versus female in your life. I feel kind of the same way sometimes. That's actually pretty clear in how much Andrea and myself are like my father and mother. I'm very much like my mother, while she is oddly like my dad in a lot of ways.
We've both talked about our occasional feelings of gender dysphoria. Neither of us truly think of ourselves as one sex or the other. For her part, she is definitely not the most girly girl one would ever meet and, if not for societal restrictions, would be even less so at times.
For my part, I love to be fussed over. I love being made to feel pretty and taken care of. I would love to have the chance to see what it's like to have people hold doors open for me or to tell me how pretty my hair looks (well, that sort of happens, but only within our circle of friends and not quite in those words). I love to wear flowers in my hair and paint my toenails and, when I'm at home and nobody is around (except my mate who thinks I look cute that way), I'll sometimes put on a pretty blue skirt I have to wear as I work on cleaning the house.
A lot of that is just the physicalities, but it's difficult to express the rest. I just know that, a lot of times, I feel just as much of a connection to femininity as I do to masculinity. Sometimes more: a lot of things guys do are just stupid if you ask me. Sports? Boring! Need directions? Sure let's stop and ask! (Actually, funny enough, it's often Andrea who won't stop for directions!) And beyond that, I just... don't know how to describe it. Sometimes I just wish I could experience being a girl for a while. And sometimes, we make that happen for each other, in the best ways that we can...
Again, it's something that Andrea and I have talked about a few times. While we're both fairly happy with the bodies we're in, neither of us would hesitate for a second about a chance to swap for a while, or to be able to change from one to the other. We're just greedy: we want it all! *smiles*
She wrote about how wonderful it is to find a group of people that accept you as you are, and it is. I've found that in the friends I've made through furry and through fandom in general. You know who you are: I am deeply grateful to have you in my life. My parents, too, are the most wonderful ones I can imagine. They have always, always been supportive and accepting of me. If not for them, I would be a much more broken person than I am. I am in a pretty good place right now, and I am so indebted to everyone who have helped me find the path to get there.
It's interesting to read about your experiences with male versus female in your life. I feel kind of the same way sometimes. That's actually pretty clear in how much Andrea and myself are like my father and mother. I'm very much like my mother, while she is oddly like my dad in a lot of ways.
We've both talked about our occasional feelings of gender dysphoria. Neither of us truly think of ourselves as one sex or the other. For her part, she is definitely not the most girly girl one would ever meet and, if not for societal restrictions, would be even less so at times.
For my part, I love to be fussed over. I love being made to feel pretty and taken care of. I would love to have the chance to see what it's like to have people hold doors open for me or to tell me how pretty my hair looks (well, that sort of happens, but only within our circle of friends and not quite in those words). I love to wear flowers in my hair and paint my toenails and, when I'm at home and nobody is around (except my mate who thinks I look cute that way), I'll sometimes put on a pretty blue skirt I have to wear as I work on cleaning the house.
A lot of that is just the physicalities, but it's difficult to express the rest. I just know that, a lot of times, I feel just as much of a connection to femininity as I do to masculinity. Sometimes more: a lot of things guys do are just stupid if you ask me. Sports? Boring! Need directions? Sure let's stop and ask! (Actually, funny enough, it's often Andrea who won't stop for directions!) And beyond that, I just... don't know how to describe it. Sometimes I just wish I could experience being a girl for a while. And sometimes, we make that happen for each other, in the best ways that we can...
Again, it's something that Andrea and I have talked about a few times. While we're both fairly happy with the bodies we're in, neither of us would hesitate for a second about a chance to swap for a while, or to be able to change from one to the other. We're just greedy: we want it all! *smiles*
She wrote about how wonderful it is to find a group of people that accept you as you are, and it is. I've found that in the friends I've made through furry and through fandom in general. You know who you are: I am deeply grateful to have you in my life. My parents, too, are the most wonderful ones I can imagine. They have always, always been supportive and accepting of me. If not for them, I would be a much more broken person than I am. I am in a pretty good place right now, and I am so indebted to everyone who have helped me find the path to get there.
