You know, especially being poly (like you, like me), I feel as though not every relationship needs to have a "long run," don't you think? I had a couple few nice years with my boyfriend K. while continuing to be with A. (who I do think is a keeper for the long term), and I do not consider that the time I spent with K. was a waste or something I should not have done because the relationship was not going to last. So yeah, the person your ex kept you away from, effectively, may not have turned into a long term relationship, but it still would have been really nice to spend whatever time the two of you did want to spend together, without your ex's interference. (Maybe you should get back in touch with that person and express all this now?)
As for the solstice and its affiliated holidays, there is absolutely no need to connect to it if you're not feeling it. I find I have disconnected from it more and more over the years as the traditions I established crumbled away one by one.
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Date: 2018-12-21 07:42 pm (UTC)As for the solstice and its affiliated holidays, there is absolutely no need to connect to it if you're not feeling it. I find I have disconnected from it more and more over the years as the traditions I established crumbled away one by one.