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Jan. 23rd, 2019 07:06 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
stormdogIn a group I'm in, someone posted a meme saying, directly and literally, that they would be interested in seeing everyone in the group naked. Some members of the group sent them naked photos which were perceived as unsolicited nudes and caused a mess.
I realize that memes are often not intended to be understood as something that the sharer is actually saying. To be honest, that makes no damn sense to me and feels like people trying to express a sentiment and then shirk responsibility for saying it.
In a situation like the nude photo thing, I certainly would get individual consent before responding because it was not meant literally (though I really don't understand what the point of sharing it was then). When its something that affects other people, I don't take things at face value.
Things that affect *me* though, I do tend to take at face value. I unfriended someone some time back because they posted a meme that said "If you think X, you must be a special kind of stupid." Well, I thought X, and was offended at being called a special kind of stupid without any attempt to understand why I thought X. So I unfriended them.
I realize that memes are often not intended to be understood as something that the sharer is actually saying. To be honest, that makes no damn sense to me and feels like people trying to express a sentiment and then shirk responsibility for saying it.
In a situation like the nude photo thing, I certainly would get individual consent before responding because it was not meant literally (though I really don't understand what the point of sharing it was then). When its something that affects other people, I don't take things at face value.
Things that affect *me* though, I do tend to take at face value. I unfriended someone some time back because they posted a meme that said "If you think X, you must be a special kind of stupid." Well, I thought X, and was offended at being called a special kind of stupid without any attempt to understand why I thought X. So I unfriended them.
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Date: 2019-01-23 01:54 pm (UTC)Others need to think a bit more before they respond to comments like that one!
It's not you, it;s them!