National Coming Out Day

Coincidentally enough, I wrote a year ago, for coming out day, that:

"I'm freaking out right now about a number of things, mostly GRE math. I don't have the time and brain power to write up the longer post that I'd like to. However, I feel like it's important to me to publicly and explicitly say a few things about myself on national coming out day."

Well, I'm still freaking about about a number of things. This is not a very good pattern. I really think it's time to make a counseling appointment next week. (Easy to say, difficult to convince myself to do.)

But regardless, I think what I said then is suitable now, so here's the rest of last year's national coming out day post.

"It's very easy to be someone who is in an invisible minority. To ride the coattails of heterosexual privilege, or monogamous privilege, or other kinds of privilege. It's important to me to be an active part of making alternatives to social norms more well-known and understood. To make them into something that isn't the scary other. To that end:

I am not heterosexual. Neither am I homosexual. My attraction to others is largely independent of sex or gender. It's easy for others not to know this about me because my partners are both female, so I want to state it explicitly.

I do not identify as male, nor do I identify as female. I object to socially constructed, gendered norms of behavior. Each individual deserves the right to construct their own lives without their society piling irrational baggage onto them in the forms of expected behaviors based solely on a biological accident of birth. It's easy for others not to know this about me because I generally have a masculine presentation of self, so I want to state it explicitly.

I am not monogamous. I practice consensual non-monogamy, communicating fully and openly with my partner(s) to construct a relationship paradigm where we are all free to make our own choices as we seek happiness in our own ways. It's easy for others not to know this about me because I don't get to spend a lot of social time with my partners and friends, so I want to state it explicitly.

If you have any questions or comments, please feel free!"

Bean Buns!

I just learned that a large Asian food store is approximately three-quarters of a mile from me. Probably less than a fifteen minute walk. And they have a bakery onsite. I might be able to get fresh red bean paste buns; that would be happiness!

Arrgh

"The newborn child is not a tabula rasa, but is somehow still formless. It can only tend toward form, toward maturity, which marks an endpoint (in every sense of the word: finality, meaning, accomplishment, perfection, term, termination, conclusion). Maturity is fulfillment and already death. There is no reason for adults to behave proudly since they have already reached their end."

Henri Lefebvre, you write a little more coherently than Gene Ray. Thank you for wasting my day. I would say please stop, but you are dead.