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Got they/themmed - Data management
Mar. 7th, 2023 02:33 pmI picked up an order of pet food today and one employee was showing another how to process a pick-up order. When she referred to me, she used they/them, and it kind of made my day. I may not be looking as fem as I'd like, but at least I'm looking less masc?
I was trying to have my hair down all the time when going out, but it doesn't work so well when it's windy. Instead I've been wearing it in a high ponytail when I need to. It's amazing how much of a difference it makes to have the tail higher up on my head instead of as low as possible.
And then I had to go back to pick up a second bag that they forgot to give me. Miriam called to tell them that her wife would be coming to get it and I felt a combination of joy at being her wife and anxiety about how the store staff would feel about that.
Through most of our relationship, I didn't like the terms husband or wife. I used partner instead. I thought that I didn't like the heteronormativity of husband/wife, nor was I happy about some kind of formal ceremony being required to legitimize our relationship.
And those things are still true and still bother me, but I realize now that I didn't like being a "husband." I love being a wife.
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I have finally started reconciling the data that was on the hard drive I recovered from my burned computer with the data that was on the external drive I sent for professional data recovery. There is stuff on each of them that wasn't on the other, but the folder structure I use for storing all my stuff is the same.
I'm using an open source program called WinMerge that lets you compare up to three different files or folder structures and get a file-by-file list of which ones exist where and whether they are the same. It's pretty great, even if it takes many hours to look through the data.
And that's the part that's confusing me. The bottleneck seems to be the external drive I got back from the data recovery service. Resource manager shows its activity pegged at 100% while my other external drive with the other copy is mostly between 10% and 30%. (ETA: actually, it's been sitting near 1-2% for a while now.) They're both USB 3 and both on the same bus, so I'm not sure what the difference is. The one stuck at 100% is a 2.5" spinning media drive (Toshiba Canvio) and the other one is a 3.5" spinning media drive (WD Elements), but that doesn't seem like it should make a difference. I guess the Canvio drive just has worse specs.
I was trying to have my hair down all the time when going out, but it doesn't work so well when it's windy. Instead I've been wearing it in a high ponytail when I need to. It's amazing how much of a difference it makes to have the tail higher up on my head instead of as low as possible.
And then I had to go back to pick up a second bag that they forgot to give me. Miriam called to tell them that her wife would be coming to get it and I felt a combination of joy at being her wife and anxiety about how the store staff would feel about that.
Through most of our relationship, I didn't like the terms husband or wife. I used partner instead. I thought that I didn't like the heteronormativity of husband/wife, nor was I happy about some kind of formal ceremony being required to legitimize our relationship.
And those things are still true and still bother me, but I realize now that I didn't like being a "husband." I love being a wife.
---
I have finally started reconciling the data that was on the hard drive I recovered from my burned computer with the data that was on the external drive I sent for professional data recovery. There is stuff on each of them that wasn't on the other, but the folder structure I use for storing all my stuff is the same.
I'm using an open source program called WinMerge that lets you compare up to three different files or folder structures and get a file-by-file list of which ones exist where and whether they are the same. It's pretty great, even if it takes many hours to look through the data.
And that's the part that's confusing me. The bottleneck seems to be the external drive I got back from the data recovery service. Resource manager shows its activity pegged at 100% while my other external drive with the other copy is mostly between 10% and 30%. (ETA: actually, it's been sitting near 1-2% for a while now.) They're both USB 3 and both on the same bus, so I'm not sure what the difference is. The one stuck at 100% is a 2.5" spinning media drive (Toshiba Canvio) and the other one is a 3.5" spinning media drive (WD Elements), but that doesn't seem like it should make a difference. I guess the Canvio drive just has worse specs.
