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Mar. 5th, 2003 11:23 pmStuck at work really late tonight. My ride, the Dwarf, ended up in a playtest of our new game with the president and others. Heh. Glad I'm driving myself tomorrow. I'm too tired to do anything much but write this and go to bed.
Discussion yesterday resulted in thoughts on the subject of friendship. I guess most people have a 'best friend' of sorts. At least, the term is common enough that I assume most people do. For me, the idea just doesn't quite fit my concept of friendship. I'm not sure I feel comfortable trying to rationalize or quantify friendship even to that small degree. Each of my friends has their own special individuality, and it's that wonderful uniquness that I love about them. They are all such special people that I feel like I would be doing a disservice, not only to them, but to my feelings for them, if I were to have them somehow 'ranked'. I feel it's very much an apples to oranges situation. Each one is a note of music, perfect in it's own way and each is as valued and necessary to the melody as the others. Maybe there are some who I'm closer to in some ways than others, or some who I have more interests in common with than others, but to take those qualities and say 'person x is my best friend'? That just feels wrong to me. Does anyone else feel that way? I have been deaf for 23 years, and now I hear a symphony. How could I say which part of it is most pleasing to the ear?
My brother tells me that his group of friends (and he has a large one) sometimes split over some argument or other. They'll split up into sides and get angry and hold grudges. He tells me that one's position in the social 'pecking order', if you will, can determine what sort of behavior is expected in such situations. That's far too complex for me. I hope I never get into that mess because I don't understand any of it. I just want to love all my friends. That's simple enough, isn't it? You can care about someone a great deal and still disagree on something. I can even understand disagreeing on something radical enough that two people don't want to see each other, but still care about each other. I just don't understand why a group of friends would feel like they have to take sides on an issue, and in doing so, be upset or distant from people they know just based on what their 'side' of the situation is doing. I wish everyone would just get along. Maybe that's why I can't stand politics either...
Discussion yesterday resulted in thoughts on the subject of friendship. I guess most people have a 'best friend' of sorts. At least, the term is common enough that I assume most people do. For me, the idea just doesn't quite fit my concept of friendship. I'm not sure I feel comfortable trying to rationalize or quantify friendship even to that small degree. Each of my friends has their own special individuality, and it's that wonderful uniquness that I love about them. They are all such special people that I feel like I would be doing a disservice, not only to them, but to my feelings for them, if I were to have them somehow 'ranked'. I feel it's very much an apples to oranges situation. Each one is a note of music, perfect in it's own way and each is as valued and necessary to the melody as the others. Maybe there are some who I'm closer to in some ways than others, or some who I have more interests in common with than others, but to take those qualities and say 'person x is my best friend'? That just feels wrong to me. Does anyone else feel that way? I have been deaf for 23 years, and now I hear a symphony. How could I say which part of it is most pleasing to the ear?
My brother tells me that his group of friends (and he has a large one) sometimes split over some argument or other. They'll split up into sides and get angry and hold grudges. He tells me that one's position in the social 'pecking order', if you will, can determine what sort of behavior is expected in such situations. That's far too complex for me. I hope I never get into that mess because I don't understand any of it. I just want to love all my friends. That's simple enough, isn't it? You can care about someone a great deal and still disagree on something. I can even understand disagreeing on something radical enough that two people don't want to see each other, but still care about each other. I just don't understand why a group of friends would feel like they have to take sides on an issue, and in doing so, be upset or distant from people they know just based on what their 'side' of the situation is doing. I wish everyone would just get along. Maybe that's why I can't stand politics either...
