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It's ironic that I was first introduced to Shawn Colvin's concept album about her divorce, A Few Small Repairs, in my ex's music collection. I do have to credit her for my initial exposure to feminist/lesbian folk rock in general, too.

I love A Few Small Repairs in its entirety. There's some continuing catharsis in listening to it: it makes me feel understood, and it makes me really happy to have left the life I was in and to have built the one I have now.
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Well, my ex has made it clear that she does not want to hear from me in any way or give me any information that might help for my permanent residency application. I thought that might be the case.

I'm pretty sure I have found her current legal last name anyway. Being pretty sure of her birthday, I managed to use it to find a judgment against her for driving after suspension or revocation of registration. The judgment has the name I thought, but wasn't sure, is her current one. Super annoying for her, I'm sure, to have forgotten to renew her plates, but convenient for me.
stormdog: a woman with light skin and long brown hair that cascades over one shoulder. On her other side, she is holding a large plush shark against herself. She has pink fingernails and pink cat eye glasses (Default)
I wonder what the experience of having an emotional connection to the solstice is like. I've never felt much of an emotional connection to any such cultural/religious ritual. I'm glad the days will get longer.

I guess my strongest solstice memory is when I went with my ex to a solstice celebration friends of ours were having because it was a social thing to do. I met a person who started sort of dating me for a while and who then broke up with me because my ex was making the relationship too stressful. She (my ex) got really upset with anyone it seemed like I might be interested in dating, or who might be interested in me. Perhaps not the greatest memory to associate with such a thing.

I miss that person sometimes. I suspect we would not have worked out in the long run, but it would have been nice to figure that out for myself.
stormdog: a woman with light skin and long brown hair that cascades over one shoulder. On her other side, she is holding a large plush shark against herself. She has pink fingernails and pink cat eye glasses (Default)
I think that I often have a question for people at the end of my posts because I want there to be some context and backstory, and that because of that my question gets missed. So I'll lead (if you can call the end of the first paragraph a lead) with a question: do I know anyone who has info about working with one department or another at Midwest Furfest? [This is more likely to garner responses on Facebook where I think I know folks who work the convention.] I'd like to do that. (If not, maybe I'll sign up through the website to be a volunteer, if it's not too late.)

I *think* I'd like to go to a convention again. It's been years. I really feel like I don't even know what to do at a convention. After I split up with my ex I was having really positive experiences socializing at such things. Then school, grad school, and depression consumed my life for, at this point, seven or eight years. I don't even know what I'd do there anymore. I imagine my first experiences at conventions when I started going without my parents, just awkwardly walking around the hallways, panels, and dealers' room all day and going home without talking to anyone. If I had the structure of working or volunteering, maybe I could meet people.

There are other things I'd like to go to, but it seems that timing is not great right now.

The next two cuddle events in Chicago are focused on women and gender-minority folks and I feel uncomfortable going. (I did contact the organizer to ask about the events, and though they did not say I shouldn't attend, I feel better right now not doing so.) The one after that will happen while I'm in Canada with Danae, so that puts things into January. There's another group of folks who have a monthly get-together, but the regular fourth Thursday time is Thanksgiving this month, and they can't do the week after because the organizer will be at Midwest Furfest.

My past experiences with trying to be a part of the social world of fandom is tainted by a lot of negative stuff related to my relationship with my ex and my own inability to establish connections even with people whose periphery I've been in for ten or fifteen years. It makes me feel sad and fatalistic. In a way, the idea of Danae finding a job elsewhere and giving me a chance to start completely over is really appealing. But there must be people in Chicago who would like me and who I'd enjoy spending time with. Maybe I can still find them.

Relatedly, I was just approved to join the Chicago Polyamory group here on Facebook. Maybe on Friday I can do my introductory post and start being social there with folks who there's a potential of actually meeting in real life.

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